2013 April 9: I refuse to be abused

I refuse to make love to the hands that twist my wrists

Hands that declares that love insists

To justify itself with fists

The same love that covers my face with mucous spits…

As I recapture how your fingers created sensual sexual traces

Allowing you to make love to my special sacred places

Funny how we moved from sexual to face trashing stages

And after such tragedy you still insist on making love faces

And then you vow that you love me on those bases…

So in sweet bitter thought
as I reflect

On how your gentle touch also had a concurrent negative impact

To my confidence because you’re soft hands had a facially impairing effect

Inducing the reality that how we met has become the day I live to regret

Because I…

I fear the smile that once left me amused

The touch that never made my body refuse

So I guess that gave you power,
power that you so rottenly misuse

By constantly leaving me
economically, emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually abused

Am amazed by how you think your tired apologies will reimburse

My pride, my love, my smile and
my beauty that you repetitively curse

So I repeat that I refuse

To be abused.

by Kopano Sibeko
© 09/03/2013

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About the author

Kopano is a young South African, feminist, activist and writer. She is also a daughter, sister and lover of life.
She studied and completed National Diploma in Journalism at Tshwane University of Technology (TUT).
Interned at Alex Pioneer and Community Media for Development Productions (CMFD).
Have previous wrote for Forum for the Empowerment of Women (FEW) and GenderLinks.
Currently volunteering for Inkanyiso as a reporter/ journalist focusing mainly on lesbian youth affairs and women’s lives in Alexandra and surrounding areas of Johannesburg.

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17 Responses to 2013 April 9: I refuse to be abused

  1. Noluntu says:

    WOW! Refuse.. Is what many fail to do. Something holds them back, could it be the flowers that are giving in apology of the past occurance. How I wish many woman would stand up & refuse to be abused! Inspired! 🙂 lovely writting.

  2. Noluntu says:

    WOW! Refuse.. Is what many fail to do. Something holds them back, could it be the flowers that are given in apology of the past occurance. How I wish many woman would stand up & refuse to be abused! Inspired! 🙂 lovely writting

  3. Nonini Monepya says:

    Great work by the author, keep ’em coming and help educate and empower us.

  4. Wow wow powerfull words my sister… I refuse… Its so touching… Thank you

  5. Lerato says:

    Nice 1 Kopi

  6. ofentse says:

    Good one Kops

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