Category Archives: Mother

2015 May 14: “I’m happy living my life the way I am”

  I’m Ziningi Praiseworth Ndovela, a 31year old born in Izingolweni (kwaXolo tribal) and grew up there until I obtained my Senior Certificate, then moved to Durban in Umlazi township. I belong to the lesbian world, the life that some people hate … Continue reading

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2014 Dec. 3: Beauty

She is beautiful But she doesn’t know it or maybe She chooses to hide her beauty In the exterior of her hard face … So, okay she has a hard face And the thing is she hides her softness In … Continue reading

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2014 Oct. 10: “I tried to commit suicide…”

  I didn’t write this because I had nothing better to do. I didn’t write this because I want recognition. I wrote this because I’m embarking on a self-discovery journey. I want to share my experience with the hope that … Continue reading

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2014 Sept. 24: “At times I’d get jealous thinking she was taking my place”

  My name is Ayanda Masina, popularly known as ‘Ayanda Kiss’ or Kgokgo to some friends. I have a lot of nicknames. I guess it goes with the level we at with our friendship. On a beautiful day on April 25 in … Continue reading

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