Photos and text by Charmain Carrol.
Four months ago…
Where: Midrand, Johannesburg
When: 23rd March 2014
Bathini Dambuza and I were honoured to attend yet another engagement lunch of two of our fellow lesbian sisters held in Midrand, Johannesburg. The couple who got engaged is Vanessa Mathebula (24) and Ntokozo Mthalane (27. Ntokozo is a professional dancer and Vanessa is a medical rep.
As you walk into their apartment there are pictures of them on the walls and one could sense the warmth and homely atmosphere. The kitchen counter was full of food that the couple had prepared for the guests.
Close friends and family were there to support and celebrate with them. The couple started dating on 9th February 2013. On the 14th March 2014, Ntokozo (also known as Nana) proposed to her sweetheart and on the 23rd March 2014 a lunch was held in which many friends and family witnessed their engagement.
Amongst the family members who came to support the couple was Vanessa’s mother. I managed to steal some few minutes from her as she was very busy with preparations. She was very hands-on as to not just being there but also contributing by capturing the moments of her second eldest daughter’s special day. I asked her how she felt about the engagement since there’s so much hate crimes reported in our society and she said, “I have accepted my daughter and her partner as part of the family. As long as they are happy, I will support them”.
As the day progressed a lot of dancing took place and we couldn’t help but notice how the couple couldn’t get their hands off of each other, stealing kisses here and there one could tell how in love the couple is.
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