2013 May 12: Happy Mother’s Day is NOT for everyone

by Clear Peaceful Mind

Today I went to the Randburg Kwai21Marathon. I’m not much of an athlete, definitely not a runner, jogger or walker. I just start a race of my own trotting behind everyone else and praying I make it before cut off time. As we, myself and other athletes tortured ourselves through the Randburg hills on Mother’s Day, the marshalls, together with most other runners started wishing every woman a Happy Mother’s Day.

It got me wondering…
Is every woman on this race a mother?
Does every woman have a desire to be one?
We exist because of these mothers but how many of us still have our mothers alive and how many of us here as women have good relationships with our mothers. Just because someone gave birth to you, it doesn’t mean that there is a love shared between the two of you, a motherly bond. How many women were actually forced into motherhood in the hopes of keeping a failing relationship alive, sexual abuse – being raped as a kid only to realize that you are having a baby when your tummy is well rounded and are due for labour. One of your close family members died, leaving you with no choice but to raise her kids.

Mothers’ day is a joyous occasion for those who are mothers but how those who are not mothers feel. People never think about it on Mother’s day when they walk up to a woman and say HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY.
What people fail to realize is that some of us women may not have children. There are women who may have lost their child or can’t have children etc. or just are childless because of financial situations or are unable to find a suitable partner to have that child with.

So, Mother’s Day for some women is pure torture and it’s sad and humiliating.

What do you really say after saying happy mother’s day to someone only to find out that she has just lost her mother and doesn’t have kids of her own either.

Its easy to think that by raising someone’s child be it your niece or nephew might fill that maternal space, unless that child’s parents are deceased, at the end of the day they’re gonna want them back and you will be left with a heartbreaking empty nest not because your “offsprings” grew wings but because they decided to learn how to fly from their own mothers.

I wonder if anyone out there ever thought about this before wishing a woman a happy mothers day?

So, as we utter the following words to other female species, let’s just bear in mind that they’re not peaches and cream for everyone and not everyone likes passing them around…

From a Mom

. . To a Mom. . . We traded sleep for dark circles, salon haircuts for ponytails, long baths for quick showers, late nights for early mornings, designer bags for school bags and we wouldn’t change a thing!
We call ourselves Mom’s and we don’t care about what we gave up and instead LOVE what we get in return!
That’s what being a Mom is all about!! Send this to all the brilliant Mom’s you know…

So think before you pass it around!

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5 Responses to 2013 May 12: Happy Mother’s Day is NOT for everyone

  1. Ramazan Ngobese says:

    Happy mothers day to all people out there says Zahara *ethatha i-award yakhe ephuma esteji*

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