2013 Jan. 5: ‘Just give me one round of sex, girls won’t satisfy you.’ – Perpetrator

by Lerato Dumse

On the 1st January 2014 around 3pm, Sonto Mokoena (30) was sitting in Phiri section, Soweto with her cousins and friends she grew up with having celebrating

New Year. They were having so much fun, and then decided to buy more drinks.

Mokoena then went with one of the guys to his home, so he could fetch his contribution with the intention of going to buy.

“I was surprised when he locked the door and I immediately asked why. He responded by saying ‘Just give me one round of sex, girls won’t satisfy you.’ I was so shocked because this is someone I trusted and he never gave me any sign he could do that” relates Mokoena.

A struggle then ensued between the two. Mokoena realised that she was being overpowered by the alleged perpetrator (who can’t be named until he appears in court on Monday, 6th Jan. 2013). She broke a bottle and stabbed the guy in the hand.

Later that day, she then reported the matter to the police and opened a case of attempted rape at Moroka police station.
“After being mocked and jokes made about me ‘being a woman who stabs men’ the police then accompanied me to his home to verify his address. We found his mom cleaning up the mess, and the police didn’t even say anything to her about tempering with the crime scene.”

The following day Mokoena received a call from her sister informing her that the police are looking for her and left a message that she must go to the police station.

When she arrived there she was locked up and had to wait in the police cells while the alleged perpetrator opened a case.  She was then brought out and charged with assault with intent to cause grievous bodily harm.

On Friday, 3rd Jan. 2013, she appeared in court and is out on R500 bail.
“I opened my case first but the process is moving faster in the case against me” said a frustrated Mokoena.

In a similar incident that took place in Dec. 2012, a 17 year old lesbian from Pietermaritzburg, KwaZulu-Natal is facing murder charges. The teenager stabbed the man who tried to rape her. Owing to two previous rapes, the girl carried a knife “for protection” in case she ever needed to defend herself.
The murder case against her is still pending.

Previous articles by Lerato

2014 Jan. 1: Bikinis, Brains and Curves






2013 Dec. 6: IDEA dialogue on strategies of activism with Southern African activists










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7 Responses to 2013 Jan. 5: ‘Just give me one round of sex, girls won’t satisfy you.’ – Perpetrator

  1. Ramazan Ngobese says:

    Manje lamaphoyisa abefuna ukuthi bamraype ukuze kuzosukunyelwa phezulu haybakithi kungadlalwa kabi ubeziprotector Kodwa ke ake ayeke amaLesbian ukutruster amadoda around them. Ngihlezi ngisho ngithi umuntu okwenzakalisa kabi yilo oseduze kwakho futhi omethemba noJesu wakhaphelwa uJudas esehambe naye iminyaka ubobaqaphela abantu ohambanabo ungahambi uThemba noma uba nayeke angimazike ukuthi ubeze ayohlanganisa amali namadoda astr8t nje yini inkinga yakhe ngoba phela akhona amadoda anjengaye angaphuza nawo akesehliseke ukuhambanamadoda siphuze nawo cos they take advantage

  2. Am worried and mostly I fear what will become with the right of being able to procted oneself is taken away. Thank you for bringing these news and stories to us, I had always planned on how I’d procted me if need be, this was a tip that i got from a police man, that whenever you under attack and have a chance to, KILL THE BASTARD CAUSE IF YOU DON’T CHANCES ARE HE WON’T EVEN GET ARRESTED though now am confused. Should we or should we not procted ourselves from beasts??? Can we have a police official to explain to us how this should work? Somebody must address the community on what should we do,*very worried*.

  3. Debora says:

    We wil never have justice. The way this police officer are doing things.its a shame cause we don’t have the power 4 this bustered.

  4. Sponono says:

    This is bullshit! when we defend ourselves we become perpetrators, and the law is too quick to judge and make the arrest. But when we get killed and raped it’s takes forever for us to get justice.This nonsense must stop, I say to my fellow LGBTI’s if protecting yourself and your partner from any harm means you must kill someone, so be it.


  6. vukile says:

    Would have really like to reblog this but there’s no option to do so.

  7. Same of lesbian the go to the clubs they take men maney they drenk theyer beyas then the mans want to sleep weth them I they don’t want. They raip therm and kill therm we mast now that not eney person Is andastandeng way the lesbian gert kill gays they don’t we mast tok about it this is to much

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