by Vuyisile Shabalala

Our journey as a committed couple planning our wedding has come into being. Being engaged to a person like Happy Mchunu makes it easy. She fulfils me and completes my entire existence. Compromises and understanding plays a huge role in helping us to respect and believe in each other. The thoughts I had before being in a committed relationship were always about me and my daughter, but now it its different, I have my own family.

Happy in a fawn suit accompanied by Mchunu family and friends…

Bridal gifts brought by the Mchunus to the Tshabalala family…

Vuyisile and Happy being franked by church elders MaGesh, Pastor Z Zungu and Nonhle Kunene (2014)

We learn everyday how to appreciate the love we have for one another, how to manage our time, how to budget our finances together so that we can build and grow together towards our common goals.

Managing our emotions, respect and love for each other allows us to become fully committed partners. This is our sixth month into our engagement, and the novelty has not worn out as yet. Do not get me wrong, we have our moments of mixed emotions where we argue about the simplest of stupid things, but we make up and reconcile quickly as we know the value and love we have for each other.

Members of the Tshabalala family receiving presents as part of the Zulu tradition before the couple’s wedding…

Communication is a vital threshold in our relationship.  It allows us to express ourselves without letting the other person feel less worthy. I say we are a couple that’s together for all the right reasons. We inspire each other to always be the best and do our best.

I always related back to what Happy said to me when she proposed her heart to me

“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart.”

Related link

 2014 Dec. 21: Sealing the union of love

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2014 Aug. 2: Vuyisile and Happy’s umembeso

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2013 June 15:   The Durban Lesbian Wedding of the Year