2019 May 29: Forgiveness

The fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed on it.

by Nonkululeko “Sicka” Mthunzi

They say time heals all wounds, but healing comes with forgiving? A wound can heal but does the scar also fade with time without the perpetrator showing remorse? He crushed our little violets and they shed on his heels. Just because he was imprisoned with the last fragrance of our violets, only then does he seek forgiveness. Guess what Rome was not built in one day.

Our societies are fogged with a cloud full of hate, resentment, anger, sadness..etc. Today most of us bare scars caused by the people who were suppose to protect us, love us and nature us but our dignity is dragged through streets that envy our purity. I for one don’t agree with what is being said ” forgive and forget”, yes I will forgive but does it mean I should forget how my mother threw me in a trash pit and never looked back, my father who spent his money with different women while I didn’t have school shoes, or my friend who kissed my girlfriend and told me it was a mistake, not forgetting my educator who scouted my innocence?

I am concerned because forgiveness takes time and it is a process, a journey where sometimes you discover yourself paralysed with anger and fear as a result it is a dangerous tool to you psychologically and emotionally. I am angry and depressed and it kills me every time I walk in these streets, a place that was once my home is a crime scene of my ignorance. Memory is the spear that winds in my dreams with pictures of their innocence painted in scarlet all over these walls. A mother lost her children the day she allowed herself to become a victim of domestic violence. The man that was supposed to be their protector lives behind still bars that remind him every night of the blood shed in his soul. How does she forgive if she was never given room to heal, room to forgive herself, room to ask for forgiveness. Sadly the people that she must ask for forgiveness cannot respond to her request and soon she has to face the monster that once made love to her.

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed on it” , Mark Twain defined the power of forgiveness and his last words when explaining what he meant by this quote is that “Forgiveness is an act of kindness towards yourself and towards all those who will be healed and touched by you as you come fully into your own personal power, free from hate, free from resentment and free from the prison of your past. The world needs you: the healed you, the happy you, the joyful you, the funny you and the you that you were always meant to be. We are looking forward to meeting you.” Forgive to break out of the prisons we locked ourselves in.

Previous by Sicka:

https://inkanyiso.org/2015/02/19/2015-feb-19-trending-with-shaz-sicka-in-oslo/

https://inkanyiso.org/2019/03/23/2019-mar-20-struggles-of-uplifting-our-townships/

https://inkanyiso.org/2017/03/15/iam-making-history/

https://inkanyiso.org/2019/02/07/2019-feb-6-ukuzalelwa-ekhayeni-lama-thonga/

https://inkanyiso.org/2015/03/03/2015-mar-3-a-letter-to-my-mother/

 

 

This entry was posted in "Free from My Happiness", "Sheshisa isikhathi siya hamba" by Sicka Shaz Mthunzi, 'Sicka' Sharon Mthunzi, Anger, Gay & Lesbian Memory in Action (GALA), Healing, Healing feeling, Memory, Traditional healing, traditional healing trainees, Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

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